GUYS I FOUND IT!

A while ago (well, that's a few months back honestly) we had a BGR session. As we were talking about lust and marriage, perhaps pertaining to this verse...
1 Cor 7:9
But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

And perhaps some had concluded that it is indeed so, better for lustful individuals to get married.

But I doubted. It seems to be a big leap to say that marriage erm.. sanctifies our lusts? Or that it kills lust? Or even, radically, it is okay to lust for your wife. 

Some people didn't quite get where I was going. The notion that it is possible to lust after your own wife seems foreign. At any rate, we all lacked the actual experience so it was pretty pointless debating about it. BUT

GUYS I FOUND IT! (I think!)

1 Thes 4: 4-5

⁴ that each of you should learn to control your own body^[a] in a way that is holy and honorable, ⁵ not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God;

Footnotes:

1. 1 Thessalonians 4:4 Or learn to live with your own wife; or learn to acquire a wife

So, should learn to live with your wife in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans.

1. It is possible to live with passionate lust.. if not why the warning.. or if not how are the pagans doing it?

2. It is possible and it is undesirable that this should be it. 

So I think that sums it up. Marriage doesn't have the magic of justifying the lust of a lustful person. It is still possible to lust after your wife so... don't marry recklessly and make a poor girl go through that.