leadership in drinking water.

What does it mean to be head of the household? What does it mean to submit? What does it mean by mutual submission? These are very big questions to answer before you walk into a relationship (or a disaster).

Does a submissive wife seat passive doing nothing? Are her suggestions an ungodly attempt to wrestle the leadership of the husband? I doubt that be the case. Being a helper, she is meant to make suggestions, what more, there are many things, we can plainly see, women are more proficient in. Isn't it terrible if we forgo such an advantage over a misunderstanding of what leadership is?

At the core of it I think it constitutes making the ultimate decision, whenever possible.
It may look like this:

Where shall we go for vacation dear?

I'm dry on ideas, what do you think?

I think we can go to cambodia, it is affordable, the food is akin and therefore acceptable to the chinese palate, the tourist spots are meaningful and worthwhile and if possible we can even visit an orphanage or two.

That's an excellent idea. Let's go cambodia.


In this scenario the wife arguably made up the meat of the final decision to go cambodia. It was entirely her idea and the motivations all dreamt up by her. However, being the head, the husband declares with finality that the family goes to cambodia, the wife submits because it is a wise decision (even though her own).

I don't think leadership means to have really original ideas and decisions, never incorporating anything the wife says. It's about making the final call.
In a sense, "what do you think?" is a far more biblical thing to say as compared to "you decide" though arguably, the decision to pass down the decision making is also leadership (so i guess it really depends on the heart which says it. Does it really say "i refuse to make a decision" or does it say "it is in my good pleasure to decide that you make the decision"?)

And so from across the table she pushes the bottle of water closer to me. It means "drink up, you'll feel better."

Initially, I didn't plan to drink it, but now I see the point. I recognize the good advice and I make a call. Picking the bottle up, I take the hearty swig. We're in a good position. Thank God.

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