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Had a little conversation with my mum today, the few rare moments we agree about something.

She was talking about apology, maybe she was hinting that I should apologize to her about something. Something, maybe, not sure, but definitely exist. I offend my mum in innumerable ways.

But anyway, she says that some people apologize by their actions but never get down to saying the words.
My senses tingled, I sensed an irony.

What's the Irony? I think, these moments are when it's the words, not the actions, which count.
Basically, my theory is that these guys, these non-vocal apologies stem from both a perception that it is somewhat embarrassing to do so and hence not above their pride.

see, apologizing with actions very insidiously sneaks it's way into forming an impression of nice guy.
Look, he's doing this and that, he's being understanding and that. You shouldn't think that way of him, etc.
Maybe it's not even much of an apology after all. Maybe it is.

But all in all, there's still a stubborn reluctance to spell out the apology. What's this? Abstract art? A game of charades?
The vocal apology therefore must be hindered by some form of pride...
Unless that person puts down that pride, the apology will always be lacking.

Because there is no pride to speak of when you've done someone wrong.


So here, I replied.
I guess in these cases the very thing we are unwilling to do is the very thing we must do.